reformed

i cant study till i get this issue off my chest!!..lemme touch on a very controversial issue that is troubling mi now..in hope, its counted as a grey area..but to mi, ive finally seen that it is a BLACK area..let us start to discuss abt this..clubbing..

my stand in the past: its ok to go sometimes and dun sin
my stand now: its not ok to go AT ALL. period.

yes i can see the arguements forming in ur mind..dan is rite in one aspect..there are certain things tt u haf to fight for..and im gonna fight for my stand in this..pls take note..im not 'brainwashing' you or watever term u replace it on you..im telling you my point..and u decide whether im right..

i HATE clubs now..if i haf the power to close every single one of them, i would do it immediately with zero qualms..but i dun!!..and so i haf to go thru this..im a reformed girl..no more clubbing for mi..that phase is over..and how i thank god for that..

to mi, ppl who clubs often can never be leaders..period..look at my statement carefully..i said ppl who clubs OFTEN..meaning that ppl who go clubbing for no reason watsoever at all..juz in the name of fun..lemme explain y..

some ppl tink that they can withstand sin..who agrees that clubs DO tempt you?..they bait you with sin..drinking, getting high, smoking, dirty dancing watever i dun care..so u reckon that u are strong and smart enuf?..lemme tell you, but if u are, u wouldnt even be there at all!..becos u would be smart to know NEVER to put urself in a position for temptations to haf a chance to gain a foothold on you..prevention is better than cure am i not right?..wat in the world do u go there for to let the devil haf a chance to tempt you!?..

even if they are strong and smart enuf to withstand..they still can never be a leader..becos the church haf to tink abt the ppl..if ur leader goes clubbing often..the members would tink that its okay to go rite?..u are strong, biblical or smart to resist sin..but are ur ppl like you?..haf they reached tt stage?..how can u gurantee that they are?..

clubbing stops you from growing..it caps god's power..becos god cant allow u to lead his ppl with such a lifestyle..sumthing tt i learnt this year..learn to value only one thing in ur life..with that simple sentence..i gurantee you that u ll grow..it all boils down to this..wat is better and wat is best..

wat is better and wat is best?!

2nd grp of ppl..ppl who go becos they haf a valid reason..may it be a school party or fren's party or whoever in the world's party..u haf a reason, u are obligated to go..den it boils down to this..a choice..

1) dun go: frens ll be upset, u might offend someone, god ll be pleased, you ll grow, ppl looks up to you
2) go: frens ll be happy, please someone, sadden god, capping potential for growth, ppl are looking at you

so choose!!..ur decision reflects ur maturity..it reflects wat do u actually value the most..wat is better, and wat is best..

ok i can sense some ppl gonna tell mi..but jinqi!!..you urself haf gone before!!..yes i admit that i did..and to tell u the truth..im not proud of it now..every time i went..sin tempted and captivated mi..i lose some of my credibility not only to others..but to my own self as well..

but there is something that im happy that i went clubbing for..and that is i am in the position to discuss abt this whole clubbing issue with any single one of you..becos i haf been there myself and i ve experienced it..i know wat its like..i haf been drunk before..i ve smoked before..i ve done all of those detestable things that i HATE so much before..and i ve overcome every single one of those things..

i still drink but i know my limit..i dun drink more than 2 glasses..which brings mi to another issue..i haf totally no understanding of ppl who get drunk often..who wants to get high..i find tt absolutely stupid..sorry if i hurt ur pride..but tts my view..first time u get drunk, ok!!..u dunno how much u can take..following tt if u still get drunk..are u doing it on purpose?..

i smoked..i quit..i went clubbing..i was tempted..so i smoked again..again, i quit..i know that this temptation ll stay with mi for my whole life..each time i walk past a person who smokes..im tempted..and to this day..im still holding strong..i overcame it..

i know wat its like to be with a guy in a club..even a gurl..ive been there and done that..but i overcame it..

benefits?..god is happy..and tt is enuf..

ive done all tt..i know wat its like..im still tempted but im holding stong..if i can do it y cant u?!..its NOT willpower..its how stong a desire u haf..tell mi of any reason that u tink is valid to go clubbing..and i ll debaunt any one of them..of that, i haf the confidence..

life is full of choices..i ll tok abt this in another entry..choose den..use ur brain..use ur willpower..use god's strength and choose..if u wan to be more..to do more for god..den give it up..but there are some who dun wan the added responsibility of growing..they are happy the way they are..to them..im sorry but u value something different from mi..and im telling you..u are missing out on so so so much..but each to his own views..i cant change ur view..but listen..my views are not important!!..ur views are not important!!..wat are god's views?!..that is impt..

im not restricting my sheep(s) from going clubbing..all of you know, im not a shepherd who would tell u wat to do unless u ask mi..becos i believe that u are matured and know wat u wan..underage clubbing is a straight NO from mi..and i would be very disappointed if u did tt..if ur reason is to go for the experience, im totally okay with it..but not others..but my disappointment doesnt matter..no it doesnt!!..im not impt!!..wat is more impt is all of you!!..i wan you all to grow..i wan all of you to know..that no matter wat, my disappointment doesnt matter as much as god's disappointment..compared to his, mine doesnt matter..

there..ive got it off my chest..i feel much better..

Be careful, however,
that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak.
For if anyone with a weak conscience sees you who have this knowledge eating in an idol's temple,
won't he be emboldened to eat what has been sacrificed to idols?
So this weak brother, for whom Christ died,
is destroyed by your knowledge.
When you sin against your brothers in this way and wound their weak conscience,
you sin against Christ.
Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin,
I will never eat meat again,
so that I will not cause him to fall.

1 Cor 8: 9-12

Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial.

Everything is permissible but not everything is constructive.

Noboday should seek his own good, but the good of others.

1 Cor 10:23-24

For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit,

and the Spirit [desires] what is contrary to the sinful nature.

They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want to do.

But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

Gal 5:16-18