confusion

you know how they always say, write out ur dreams, say what u want now..commit it to god and he wun let you down..you might even forget what you have said, but he wun forget, he will prove faithful and make it happen..by that time when you look back, you will be amazed at how god is faithful.

so what happens to those ppl who wrote down their dreams and ambitions for god with the absolute purest of hearts and hoping to see them happen becos they always trusted that god will fulfill them someday, and it didnt happen? How would you explain to someone who went thru that den?

how would you, explain to a broken hearted person who gave his/her all for god, trusted so much for something to happen, and yet not only did that thing not happen, but the person is so so so far away from that dream?

how would you explain that god did not forget about her, or her dreams?

how would you explain that she is not a failure, when she sees her peers reaching for their dreams, being something that she will never be again maybe?

how would you explain that god still loves her? that god still really really really loves her?

how would you, huh? what words can u use, how understanding can you be? what can u do, and how much can u offer so she will be comforted?

many ppl makes mistakes here then..they say they understand, they say they know, they try to explain god's rationale, try to use meagre words to 'help' their fren understand and know that god still really really loves her..

but little do they know, and im sure that they have no such intention, that every word that they speak is like a dagger that stabs into her heart, with every saying of 'I understand' or 'God still loves you cos.....' is pushing that freaking dagger deeper and deeper into that wound..

nothing anyone says, no logical explanation on earth will EVER be adequate enuf to answer that question of 'why me, lord? why me?'

no mortal on earth, can heal a broken heart like that..so dun belittle god and try to do his explaining for him..he doesnt need you to do his explaining, he doesnt need you to try and raionalise it for the person..he doesnt need you to one day show to that poor broken hearted girl that "no, god didnt forget abt you, i just had something better in mind :)"

so you want to know what you can do? i ll give u a little hint.

be there for the person, dun speak - lose all those rationale and theories you have in mind, all those words that seek to escape from ur lips to the hurting person whom they have targeted..

just be there, and listen. the only thing you shld say is this "i dunno why man, but that big guy up there has his plans. wait it out, however agonizing it might be. i ll be here to listen."

that works for me, im not sure whether it works for everone..all i know, is that we should never try to explain for god, cos we might miss out some impt points along the way.

dun be god man, dun be. you just make her hurt more.